I have been a stay-at-home mum for almost 6 years. It was not my choice and it had never been on my radar. After 4 years of working as an in-house lawyer in Congo for a multinational company, a marriage and 2 kids, my company announced me, one month before moving to Indonesia for our new assignment, that they could not make me a new contract. I have spent the next 6 years looking for a job, even leaving my family in Indonesia for 6 months to work for a start-up company in France.
During my coaching training, we had to do a value assessment. You get a list of values and you choose the 5 most important for you. I put family first. At the end of the day, I was a stay-at-home mum, so family had to be my top value, right? As soon as I wrote it down, I felt like there was something wrong. My body told me how uncomfortable I was about that answer. I knew it was not the truth, but I did not want to admit it to others, and above all, to myself. I looked at my list and did the thing I knew was right: I put “independence” on top of the list. My body immediately felt better, but my mind could not reconcile being a stay-at-home mum and having independence as my top value. Now that I had admitted that independence was my top value, I knew that I had to change something to be in alignment with it. To be continued…
Are you living in alignment with your values? How does it manifest, or not, in your life? Tell the herd!
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